How To Develop Life-changing Self-worth
When it comes to the discussion about mental health, folks are often confused about what it connotes to have a healthy self-esteem.
Most people think it has to do with the way you look or how popular or likable you are with your friends or others.
Some others wrongly believe that having a great body will help you gain self-worth, while a few others think you actually need to have accomplished something in order to have good appreciation of your worth.
Boiled down to its simplicity, a good self-esteem simply means appreciating yourself for who you are — foibles, faults and all. The real difference between someone with a healthy self-worth and someone who doesn’t isn’t ability. It’s simply acknowledgement of your weaknesses and strengths, and going through life safe in that knowledge. Which brings me to the question I’m often asked — how can I develop a healthy my self-esteem?
People with a good self-confidence are infinitely able to feel good about themselves regardless of who they are, appreciate and value their own worth, and take pride in their accomplishments and abilities. They also admit that while they are not perfect in anyway and have faults, those faults don’t play any irrationally large role in their lives or their happiness.
Tip #1. Set Aside Perfection and Grab a Hold of Accomplishments and Mistakes
Perfection is simply not an attainable proposition for anybody. Let that thought go. We are never going to be perfect. Seeking perfection in any area of your life will make you miserably depressed as the odds of you ever achieving perfection in any area of your life are hopelessly slim.
We are consumed by the thought of perfection because we see so much of it in the media. But that is an artificial concept created by the society- it doesn’t exist. Grads a hold of you achievements as you accomplish them instead. Never belittle your humble beginning. It is your stepping stone to achieving greater things
Tip #2. Explore Yourself
“Know thyself” is an old adage passed down generations, to implore us to engage in self-exploration. Usually the most well-adjusted and happiest people I have met are folks who have gone through this wonderful exercise.
This is not just about knowing your weaknesses and strengths; it also involves availing yourself to new opportunities, new friendships, new thoughts, trying out something and new perspective.
Tip #3. Be Willing to Adjust Your Own Self-Image
Self-worth can only be useful if it’s based upon the current state of your life and not on an older version of you that no longer exists.
I used to excel at so many things I’m no longer good at. I performed well in math while in high school, but now, couldn’t solve a calculus problem to save my life. I used to be obsessed with the thought that I was pretty smart, until I discovered just how little I knew. But all these are perfectly acceptable.
I have adjusted my beliefs about my strengths as things change. Instead on hanging onto a past version of me, I evaluate myself based on what is happening right now in my life. Adjust your self image and self-esteem to match your current skills and abilities, not those of the past.
Tip #4. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Nothing can destroy our self-worth more than unfair comparisons. Jane has 50,000 twitter followers while I only have 500. Joe can play football better than I do. Thomas has big houses and fast cars while I have none. I am sure you can see how this might affect our feelings about ourselves.
Though it is not easy, you need to quit comparing yourself to others. The only one you should be competing against is yourself.
These types of comparisons are unfair and irrational because you don’t really know as much as you think you know about these other people’s lives, or what it is like to be them. You may think it’s better, but it may be 10 times worse than you thought.
For example, Jane paid for that many Twitter followers; Joe’s parents have had him in sports training since he was 3; and Thomas is a wealthy drug addict suffering from an incurable disease.
Developing Life-changing Self-worth is Not Easy
I know I made it appear all too easy, it’s not.
Developing a healthy self-worth takes time, effort and patience on your part. Try to be fair and more realistic with your own self. Self-esteem comes from self-dominion. The more control you have over getting yourself to take the appropriate actions, the more self-esteem you will have.
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